I have not talked to anyone in my family for two years. I tried contacting them, but they have either blocked me on all social media or otherwise ignored me.
Two years ago, I found out that my mother had cancer. I found this out via social media posts left on my mother's Facebook page saying "I'm sorry to hear about your cancer." After further investigation of my sisters' pages, I found out that she had been fighting cancer for more than a year.
No one told me.
At about the same time, my mother found this blog. She read my post titled "To my parents: do you remember?" She was not happy about it.
"I didn't know you were so miserable as a child," she told me sarcastically.
I said, "I know you were doing your best, doing what you thought was the right thing to do."
I told her that now that I am an adult, I realize that my emotions are my responsibility, and that I can no longer blame my actions on the mistakes she and my father made during my childhood. I told her that I wrote it as a way to release my anger, and allow myself to heal.
She never spoke to me again and a year later she died.
Again, no one told me. Again, I found out via posts on my sisters' social media pages.
My wife called one of my sisters to ask why. They wouldn't talk to her, except to say that I was not welcome at my mother's memorial.
I have been disowned. My family will no longer talk to me. I'm sure that they would say that I disowned them.
